Written by: Winnie Khosa
In the 21st century marriage is not valued as it was in decades. Many ladies in our society grow until they age without any guy asking their hands in marriage and this leads to their parents keep on pressuring their daughters to get married.
Yes, it is every parents dream to see their daughter get married, but not all dreams come true. Ladies don’t just wake up and find husbands, nowadays it very difficult to find a guy whose family orientated because majority of them want to be in relationships, have a kid; when it comes to marriage they say that they are not ready.
Marriage doesn’t depend on whether the lady is ready to be a wife, but it mostly depend on whether the guy is ready to become a husband. The lady can be ready, but she cannot marry herself she needs to be asked for a hand in marriage by the person she’s in a relationship with. When the sun goes down at night and up in the morning one parent will ask a daughter this question, “when are you getting married? You should leave the house so that the younger ones can get a room”.
Parents always ask such questions without noticing that they are hurting the feeling of their daughters. No lady wants to be alone for the rest of her life, but God doesn’t bless us all the same. Don’t blame yourself and think that there’s something wrong with you because your friends, family, people your age and your former schoolmates are getting married and you not; just remember that it is not your time yet.
As it is said that good things comes to those who wait, you should keep in mind that a perfect person for you will come at the right time. Yes, you might be getting old and people making fun of you in the society; don’t lose hope because it might happen that now you are in a wrong relationship or you are with the wrong person but once you meet the perfect one for you, marriage will come your way.
Parents should stop pressuring their daughters to get married, because marriage doesn’t depend on one person but it takes two people to make it happen and at the right time.